When you date a guy from Africa and you love him soooo much that you want him to have his comfort foods, you learn to make

Nigerian food. What? Nigerian food? Can I just tell you. There are no Nigerian cookbooks. There are websites with Nigerian recipes, but they use a lot of pigeon words and items that you have to ask “dear african man, what does this mean?”

The thing I like about Nigerian food is that it is almost all  fresh foods and it is delicious and filling. I must confess, we have only made one dish, but it is so good! Mr. Man calls it stew. We made some last night and it was as always, awesome.

Here’s the Recipe. You can really do whatever you want taste wise, this is just an idea of what we do.

2 lbs of  quartered tomatoes with seeds (any variety will work, we like roma)

2 red peppers into large slices (seeds optional)

1 large onion (quartered)

1 lb of deboned red snapper or white fish (optional as well, we sometimes use fish, sometimes we don’t.)

8 chicken drumsticks (you can use legs, thighs or drumsticks, it’s better to use dark meat, because you are making a stew. I have yet to try this with white meat.)

1 habanero pepper (we leave the seeds in, but that makes it much hotter! You don’t even have to use this pepper, but we like it spicy)

2 cups of greens (you can use kale, spinach, mustard greens, collard greens, etc. We use a mixed bag from trader joes) and this is optional also! It just makes it healthier!

1 jalapeno pepper

2 cloves of garlic

2 Tbsp of olive oil

2 Tbsp of Knorr chicken broth (to taste, more or less)

1 Tbsp of curry ( to taste)

1 tsp dried thyme

Despite the various ingredients it is very easy to make.

Step 1: If you have a cast-iron pot use that to brown the drumsticks with the Tbsp on olive oil and a little salt and pepper. About three minutes on each side or until they are light brown.

While you are browning the chicken or before hand, put the tomatoes, red peppers, onion, garlic, habenero, and jalapeno through the food processor. This turns into a very soupy liquid. Take all of it and put it in the pot with your now browned chicken.

***If you decide to use fish, you can add it at this point.

Add all your dry ingredients and let it boil on the stove until it gets to the consistency of spaghetti sauce. Turn off the heat and add the greens. (It’s important to add the green last, because when they boil they loose a lot of their awesome health qualities.)

Add more seasoning to taste, add whatever you like, just keep tasting it until it’s just right. There is no perfect taste, only what works for you!

This is best eaten with rice, I use brown rice and he likes white, so we make both. To cut down on the amount of meat we eat, we usually have one drumstick and one egg with it, which is delicious!


Inspiration struck when I looked at all these awesome cookies at these http://www.park19cookies.com/. I couldn’t afford their prices, but after being canceled from work today, I decided to try and make a few of my own. I also came up with the brilliant idea to make some cereal from honey bunches of oats, my loves favorite cereal.
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sometimes i have so much anxiety. i’m not sure where it comes from. right now, i’m pretty sure it’s the fact that i am waiting to hear about grad school, that i have yet to take my nclex and that i really haven’t studied for it enough. That we are in the middle of a ridiculous court case that causes my boyfriend to toss and turn all night, and generally just breaks my heart, because it is so uncool. The fact that I would rather have a kid than go to grad school, but i don’t think it’s okay to have a kid without financial stability… all of those things are floating around.. so you know what I’m doing? I’m focusing on taking care of the little things, because then it will help me take care of the big stuff.

1. floss teeth everyday

 2. take vitamins everyday

3. meditate for 5 minutes a day

4. record bodybugg everyday

5. water, tea, and coffee in that order of importance

6. yoga 4 x per week

7. love my love, stand by him and help him through this time

8. manage mula carefully

9. pass nclex

10. cook meals at home and stop eating refined stuff

11. go to seattle

12. practice photography and sewing and the things i like.

Anthony and I moved into a new place in August. We needed a wee bit more space. It’s actually right across the street and believe it or not, that afternoon sun makes the place at least 10 degrees hotter at night. We needed to take care of a few projects to make the place suitable. Here he is doing two awesome projects. We made a weird closet in the kitchen a pantry. We also made a wall in our room into a closet! HGTV here we come! We semi-designed on a dime

I turned 31 not to long ago. The crazy thing is, I’m not sure if it means anything. I am who I am. I’m not sure that age does much to make me very different. I know it gives me more patience, more wisdom, and makes me more willing to roll with the punches.

I met a guy last year in nursing school, just a guy. We were friends, he was from Nigeria. I had a very hard time understanding his accent so I didn’t talk to him that much, he seemed a little nerdy. I’m still not sure what happened, we became better friends, we started hanging out and before long we were dating. It’s been almost a year since that point.

We have absolutely experienced our struggles. I cannot tell you how hard it is to try to be with someone from a different culture. It’s very hard to try and explain, belive, understand, and make sense out of who they are and where they are coming from. But it’s worth it. I love that he is from a country that is more traditional. I love hearing all the things he has to tell me. I love him.

So let’s do an intro. I’ve put a few photos. I’ve said a few things, but this is who he is: Anthony O. He is kind, generous, warm-hearted, ambitious, loving, and simply one of the best people I have ever met. I look forward to see where the future takes us.

Yeah for adventure and sweet love!

well summer school has lived up to it’s promise. a vampire like ability to suck all time away from said nursing student.

it’s been 20 or so odd days and i’m not sure i know up from down. i actually really enjoy this semester, it’s public health nursing and in some sadistic way, i enjoy knowing i’m at least trying to help someone. i’ve managed to spend some time with friends, work, and get a majority of the projects underway.

the projects i wish i was doing though are just milling around in my mind. i’d love to attempt another french lemon yogurt cake, but the cake tin is still staring at me everyday, screaming, ‘use me!’

what i have done:

made a healthy and yummy tuna cassarole. i used barilla fiber rich pasta, tuna, yogurt, spinach, peas, a little cheese, and panko bread crumbs. it turned out very good.

an awesome bok choy salad from martha stewart.

i have yet to actually find cornmeal to make anything with corn. i’m really wanting to try polenta fries and maybe some sweet polenta corn.

i have a darling shirt that needs to be hemmed.

a skirt to be made for a special 9 yo.

I want to make myself a cute little camera case, because store bought ones are boring and expensive.

there is a lot i want to do… but for now, i’m just trying to take care of the stuff i don’t want to. it’s also summer, that means so you think you can dance, weeds, and true blood. those along with spending time with my sweet love… make it pretty darn good.

The reception would have been cool had I known anyone there and/or had a place to sit, but thank goodness for A’s friend. He saved the night and hung out with me most of the time. He was able to answer most of my Nigerian culture questions and laugh when I made jokes about it! Yeah! The food was good, but I wish I could have talked with more people, it was just kind of strange.

WordPress won’t let me post pics that I can talk about it, I have to figure it out, but for now, here is the gallery.

One of A’s Nigerian friends got married back in May. I was very excited to go to a Nigerian wedding and check out all the hoopla. It was much more than I expected, much more. The first thing is, A was in the wedding, this is good cause he looked totally hot in a brown tux, bad, because i was seemingly on my own.

I somehow talked Mel into coming with to the actual ceremony, boy was she a trooper! It lasted 3 hours! My advice, don’t show up on time, you can show up two hours late and you won’t miss much, because most people act like paparaazi around the couple anyway. I probably could have sold churros in there and no one would have said anything. It was pretty boring in parts, but here are a few photos I took.

Africans wear some crazy shoes, I inserted a sneaky photo of the lady’s shoes who was in front of me. Another freaky tidbit, they have a little bride and groom. They were adorable, but it was still kind of weird to me.

i’ve struggled a lot with anxiety for the past two days. i’m not quiet sure what the problem is. i have an idea, but not exactly sure.

the funny thing about anxiety is that trying to fight the anxiety can make you more anxious. so freaking annoying (i really wanted to use a different “f” word, but my mom doesn’t like it.) the best thing to do is to let out some of those fears, cry a little, blast out negative thoughts, and just trust that it is for a moment (or two days.)

i try to think of the things i love so much. the morning, 3/4 asleep snuggle. knitting while my boy watches basketball. laying by the shore when it’s 96 degrees in our apartment, pinching my man’s booty, holding a baby with little rolls of babyfat, breathing, water, all the good things.

needless to say, i have skipped the coffee today, i made my first banana bread. i would take a pic, but honestly, it just looks like banana bread. now i’m going to take the sewing machine into the shop as it now has a mind of it’s own and sews when it feels like it, without my prompting.

here’s to peace in our hearts, calm in our minds, and knowing that this too shall pass.

Yourself: Blessed
Your partner: Amazing
Your hair: Curly
Your Mother: Resourceful
Your Father: Lonely
Your Favorite Item: Knitting
Your dream last night: Weird
Your Favorite Drink: Water
Your Dream Car: Range Rover
Your Dream Home: Welcoming
The Room You Are In: Living Room
Your fear: Sickness
Where you Want to be in Ten Years? Mama
Who you hung out with last night: LB
What You’re Not: Mean-spirited
Muffins: Apple-Cinnamon
One of Your Wish List Items: Fabric
The Last Thing You Did: Write
What You Are Wearing: Shirt
Your favorite weather: Warm
Your Favorite Book: Geisha
Last thing you ate: Soup
Your Life: Busy
Your mood: Peaceful
Your Best Friend: Fun
What are you thinking about right now: Sleep
Your car: Grey
What are you doing at the moment: Blogging
Your summer: School
Relationship status: Relationship
What is on your tv: Nothing
What is the weather like: Cool
When is the last time you laughed: Tonight